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'Fathers and Son' is a one take short film about Carter, a young teenage father who attempts to steal back his baby from the child's same-sex gay adoptive parents Jason and Andrew. Scott Takacs opens up about his experience coming out at as a year-old man.

An Indiana man who went viral in November for sharing a voicemail he received from his father after son out in a heartfelt letter is sharing his story exclusively with PEOPLE. In many ways, it a loving place for them, but I came to realize that teachers spoke openly against gay culture and textbooks labeled homosexuality as sinful and evil.

We’d spend those weekends. Gay friends were just friends -- respected but their relationships not necessarily discussed. When the moment to break the news to my kids finally came, I had a lot of issues to navigate. My kids listened and followed their lead.

It wasn't necessarily a bad topic, it just wasn't discussed. It had been a long 15 months since gay out to my wife, an experience I unfortunately wouldn't describe as positive, fun or something I ever want to repeat. Over 15 months, I had finalized the divorce, moved again and taken a new job based in Chicago, miles away from my boys.

It was wrought with the happiness of finally telling the closest person in my true identity, while simultaneously ripping her world out from under her. Gay marriage was in the news, but not discussed in our house other than the occasional negative comment from a close relative.

Chicago offered the stability I needed in a job, friendship and at this point, a new daddy that all contributed to my healing in this new gay world. It was a normal part of life—Mum’s job took her out of town often, and Dad was always the one holding down the fort.

There wasn't much of a plan, no guidebook in hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the process of understanding and accepting their dad for whom I truly was: a gay man. It was 15 months later that I started that same conversation with my three boys -- 9-year-old twins and an year-old.

We chose the school because we wanted to give our kids access to the best education and a strong foundation to take on the world. It all began on a quiet Friday evening when Mum left for her trip. Read about his journey below in his own words.

I never thought much of my dad being alone with me. I had decided I needed to be safe, free of the stress and emotionally sane to be a good father to my boys, even if that meant transitioning from every involved dad day-to-day to a day shuttling between Chicago and the suburbs of Detroit multiples times a month.

I was 42 years old when I came out to my wife. We were all adjusting to a new, modern family, more like a family in transition. Even prior to coming out, it was hard for me to hear my kids come home with stories of teachers degrading gay marriage or gay people, to see it in their workbooks, reinforcing the bias against being gay.

Gay stories, lgbtq+ stories, love stories That weekend was one of the most confusing yet strangely thrilling times of my life. The distance was to create some space between my now ex-wife, who struggled being in proximity to me.

Homosexuality wasn't a topic well discussed in our family. With many emotions and stress, I accepted her request to keep the reason for our divorce -- due to me being gay -- a secret for at least another year. This included keeping it from our kids and her side of the family.

The whole experience is somewhat of a blur, mostly in part to the fact that at that point in my life there was a lot of change happening and some significant pent-up emotions. My kids attended a very conservative, private Christian school.

Scott Takacs, a year-old and father of three, penned a personal essay about his experience coming out as a gay man to his sons.